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Pegging for straight men - hot or not?

Updated: Feb 7

When a woman uses a strap-on dildo and penetrates her partner anally, that’s pegging. Typically, the term pegging refers to a guy (penis-bearing individual) being penetrated by a woman (vagina-bearing individual).


Pegging

Pegging breaks conventional gender scripts in which the female is typically presumed to be the receiving partner, while the guy is the giving partner. Pegging turns this script on its head. It is about power and domination. Women find it hot because as they do not penetrate, control is not as easily attainable as it is for men. It can drive many men wild not just because of the prostate orgasm but because they are seeing their woman in complete control. This can be an incredible turn on. The woman is giving not receiving so her vulnerability shifts to the man. It is a total shift of dynamics which can be incredible arousing.


Exploring pegging


Exploring pegging, irrespective of whether you decide to continue with it and introduce it into your routine, may offer you some insight into how you both give and receive pleasure and you may want to change things up. Women who have tried pegging can perhaps have more of an insight into how guys work in bed when they're doing all that navigating and thrusting. The same can be said for men, perhaps they understand what it feels like to receive like a woman does when she is penetrated and the vulnerability she may feel.



Power play


Pegging is a power play and playing with the traditional gender roles. In other words, the taboos that surround the act make it more exciting, which is often the key ingredient to amazing sex. Like anything new, think about, research it and consider how you might feel about it emotionally after the act. Above all you need to trust your partner. I am not necessarily talking about love, but the ability to completely trust that your partner. Pegging can be very exciting, but it takes time to get right. It can be a little messy and it is not something you want to do with anyone. You should consider, is this too far outside your comfort zone? Is that a good thing or a bad thing? You need to give it some careful thought first. Although like anything you will never know until you try it, you need to at least contemplate some outcomes beyond the act itself. It will take some planning, a lot of talking and exploring slowly.


Its not just about the role reversal, the prostate orgasm, it’s also about the feeling of control. Many women find this very arousing, not to mention the constant clitoral stimulation that occurs throughout penetration and thrusting (in between the base of the vulva and the dildo). Your mind plays a huge role in your ability to orgasm. When it comes to pegging, numerous women get excited by the concept itself and act of being dominant.

So how do you prepare:

1. You have to talk to each other first. You can’t spring this on someone. As with all new sex acts, knowing what is involved, being comfortable with the pace you go at is very important for both the pegger and peggee. There's not a universal, one-size-fits-all method to approaching the subject of pegging. How you raise the conversation with your partner will depend on your current level or communication and what you already get up to in the bedroom.

If you're uncertain as to how your partner may react, try presenting the concept by speaking hypothetically and see how your partner reacts.

2. Know that your partner may not be totally onboard, but you can keep the conversation going. This is going to take a couple of conversations. But having said that if your partner is really against the idea, you must not push them. Pegging needs to be something you both want to try together. 3. Anal sex is not about sexual preference its about pleasure. Do you enjoy it? Is it pleasurable? If you are worried about issues of sexuality, then perhaps you should think about why that might be the case. Is this because there is a question mark for you or your partner or because you think you should be questioning it? 4. The tissue in the rectum and anus is more delicate than the genital tissue and it may tear, keep an open discussion throughout sex to check in with each other. Make sure you are both comfortable and no one is in pain. This should be pleasurable, but it may take some time to get it right. 5. Make sure to keep it clean! To not overstate the obvious, but you need to make sure you are both clean and your toys are clean.


Aside from the intense physical enjoyment, among the very best elements of pegging in a cis, heterosexual relationship is that it reverses the conventional structure of gender and sexual roles. You are taking part in something that is taboo. This helps in turn to chip away at some preconceived ideas you may have of what is “normal”, which can help an individual overcome their insecurities about what turns them on. Discussing all sorts of sex, your fantasises, desire, what turns you on, what you are curious about with your partner, is a big step towards achieving a fantastic and satisfying sex life. Sex should be a judgement free zone!


Thanks to:

Guybrator.com

theworldforum.org


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